I still remember the time I was diagnosed with PCOS at first I had no idea about what it is and until my doctor explained it - I tried to research further which created fear for me of not having a baby or becoming a mom and more.
I was diagnosed that I have follicles on my Left Ovary, Complete septum Uterine Didelphys, and Incompetent Cervix. Being obese resulted in having a high Cholesterol Level, High Sugar, and High Blood Pressure. I got constipated- a lot of digestive issues. My menstruation is not regular. I have regrets about not caring for myself, especially when our two babies were not able to live. I had also the thought of not having a baby anymore because I felt that I don't have the right. Years passed by our hearts still aching for what happened. It was hard for me to see a couple with a child. I felt my partner's unwavering presence and genuine love during these times, he was patient with me.
A time comes when I came across an article entitled "Are We Not All Mothers?" I read it all the way hurriedly. If you have the same situation you know what I mean. And here are some excerpts from it.
"Motherhood is more than bearing children, though it is certainly that. It is the essence of who we are as women. It defines our very identity, our divine stature and nature, and the unique trait our Father gave us"
"For reasons known to the Lord, some women are required to wait to have children. This delay is not easy for any righteous woman. But the Lord's timetable for each of us does not negate our nature. Some of us, then, must simply find other ways to mother. And all around us are those who need to be loved and led."
I contemplated these and help me realize that the Lord will give me what I want at the right time. I can still be a mom to those around me by helping them in anyways or like what a mother can do for their children. I went to some charity, going someplace to provide things needed by the children. I was able to overcome my sadness about what happened and turned my attention and energy to being a "mother" to those around me.
This was the start, I started to care for my health and did research on how can I overcome PCOS. I thought of my partner and dreamed of having a baby again. It motivated me to find a solution for my condition.
My PCOS Story taught me how to be strong both physically and emotionally. I am so blessed that I have my partner who supported me all the way. From being obese up until I achieve my ideal weight. And for almost 3 years after losing my two babies God gave me a son, and we named him Zedi. It was a total of 7 years waiting to have a successful pregnancy.
My experience thought me how hard it is. So here I am, with my partner helping people fight obesity, PCOS, and overcome infertility.
To all of the women around the world who have been wanting to have children, especially this Mother's Day but don't- know I have been there, many of us! We know how it feels, the frustrations, the cries, the prayers, and more. Know today and forever, that YOU ARE A MOTHER.
A mother is about so much more than growing a baby for nine months- a protector, a disciplinarian, and a friend.
A mother can come in all shapes, sizes, and even gender in any form- stepmom, adoptive mom, foster mom, family friend, dad, grandparent, aunts, coaches, teachers, coworkers, and so many others.
You earn the title of being "MOM" by loving unconditionally, comforting, and always putting others first.
I encourage you this Sunday to focus on your blessings and think of the people around you who have been treating you like a MOM.
Happy Mothers Day! 💖🌹